Saw this circulating on the internet, just sharing.
I have encountered some issues with my wife. I am going through a sex deprived marriage like many did. The problem is, we have been married for only less than a year. We did have sexual encounters on and off before our marriage in the preceding years and every single time it was great. Around 1 year prior to the wedding she requested for a hiatus and her reason was simply she did not want any "accident" to happen. I thought she was right and fair so I obliged.
We did not "consummate" our wedding on the night we held our dinner as I was semi KO'ed by the liquor by the time we reach our hotel suite. The next day we had to check out by noon so there was no chance for anything kinky to happen. The same night nothing happened as both of us were still exhausted. The following night I initiated but she shrugged off my advances, claiming: "I'm still feeling very tired, can we do it another day?" So I thought why not give her another few days of rest before I try again. I did not ask again till almost two weeks later and was again rejected by a similar reason: "I don't feel like it". I didn't say anything and slept on the same bed with my back facing her.
After weeks of getting turned down by her, I brought up the topic of a sex deprived marriage to her. The conversation didn't last more than 5 minutes and ended up pretty nasty. During the conversation I highlighted to her the potentially devastating consequences of a sexless marriage. It was pretty clear that the message not only did not get through; in fact things backfired. She said that I was not being understanding and demanded too much of her. I therefore quzzed her: "if I don't turn to you for sex, who should I turn to?" She kept quiet and the conversation ended abruptly.
We did not have sex till 3 months later and it ended within 10 minutes. There was almost no foreplay, just minimal fondling in what was essentially a mechnical pump then cum session. To be honest, I didn't feel we were making love, rather than we were just going through the motions. And then the same thing happened yet again whenever I try to initiate thereafter, standard excuses such as "I am not in the mood, I am feeling tired etc". My frustrations grew stronger as the days went by. When I could no longer hold back my frustrations, I confronted her. She then told me that she's no longer interested in sex but wouldn't mind if we decided to have children. At that moment my mind went blank. Completely blank. Mind you, both of us are only in our late twenties and she has already lost her sex drive. To make things worse, she's a looker and when we are out together, married men never fail to lay their eyes on her. In the minds of those envious men, they be thinking how lucky I was. But the truth is, I am suffering terribly.
Till date I have yet to stray although the thought has crossed my mind countless times. And my inclinations are growing stronger owing to the fact that some of our relatives have divorced because of affairs with third parties.